What's the best way to handle this..best gets 10 points!!?

The best thing you can do for him is to be patient and let him grieve his loss in his way and his time. Continue to support him and love him but don't get ahead of yourself . It will take him time and although he may feel close to you he needs time to sort it out and make peace with it. Give him that time--remember love is PATIENT and kind. If something is meant to grow between you two it will. You can't force or hurry it though or you may destroy your chances all together. I wish you both well and am very sorry for your loss.